Comments on: Who picked THIS engagement pose? http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Fri, 25 May 2012 05:31:06 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: Aimee http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-101832 Aimee Tue, 28 Jun 2011 22:06:17 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-101832 If it weren't for his absent head. I would love this shot. However, I AM in a fun-kinky relationship where this type of shot would be absolutely appropriate. Although he would love to have his head included. :) If it weren't for his absent head. I would love this shot. However, I AM in a fun-kinky relationship where this type of shot would be absolutely appropriate. Although he would love to have his head included. :)
]]> By: meagan http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-87487 meagan Fri, 14 Jan 2011 02:11:23 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-87487 i think thats the point of the picture... i love it i think thats the point of the picture… i love it
]]> By: Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-75669 Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: Mon, 13 Sep 2010 19:46:25 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-75669 Oh, alright... I guess I just didn't see this photo, or other photos like it, as projecting a cultural assumption. I was thinking of it more as simply depicting this couples' relationship. But that's just me. :) Oh, alright… I guess I just didn't see this photo, or other photos like it, as projecting a cultural assumption. I was thinking of it more as simply depicting this couples' relationship. But that's just me. :)
]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-75666 Ariel Mon, 13 Sep 2010 19:29:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-75666 <I>it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.'</i> My goal was simply a tongue-in-cheek challenge the cultural assumptions that women are subservient to their husbands. I'm all for couples having whatever power dynamics work for them. it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.'

My goal was simply a tongue-in-cheek challenge the cultural assumptions that women are subservient to their husbands. I'm all for couples having whatever power dynamics work for them.

]]> By: Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-75662 Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: Mon, 13 Sep 2010 19:07:08 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-75662 <i>"That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!" </i> What if the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look, he let me out of the dungeon for the afternoon, and I'm not even on my leash! Tee hee!" Would it be okay then? I'm just curious, because (after also reading your other article on a similar picture with gender roles reversed) it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.' <i>"And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling."</i> So what? Maybe she is subservient. Maybe that couple, and many other couples, enjoy practicing traditional gender roles. Is there something wrong with that? It's not like the photographer was all like, "Bride, you have to sit on the ground at your husband's feet because you are a woman and therefore should act like a slave to him." It's not like this photo has a note attached to it that says "Women, take note! This is how you should be - a slave to your husband - and you should love it... and if you don't then you should be ashamed of yourself!" I do agree with you on the head cut off being creepy. It's like she's posing in front of a statue, not a human being. Yuck! "That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"
What if the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look, he let me out of the dungeon for the afternoon, and I'm not even on my leash! Tee hee!" Would it be okay then? I'm just curious, because (after also reading your other article on a similar picture with gender roles reversed) it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.'
"And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling."
So what? Maybe she is subservient. Maybe that couple, and many other couples, enjoy practicing traditional gender roles. Is there something wrong with that? It's not like the photographer was all like, "Bride, you have to sit on the ground at your husband's feet because you are a woman and therefore should act like a slave to him." It's not like this photo has a note attached to it that says "Women, take note! This is how you should be – a slave to your husband – and you should love it… and if you don't then you should be ashamed of yourself!"
I do agree with you on the head cut off being creepy. It's like she's posing in front of a statue, not a human being. Yuck!
]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-70558 Ariel Mon, 05 Jul 2010 17:37:58 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-70558 Offbeat Submissive, if I thought this photo was shot from a kink perspective, I would love it. But the impression I've gotten from all involved is that it was "just a fun pose," not a reflection of an overt D/s relationship. Offbeat Submissive, if I thought this photo was shot from a kink perspective, I would love it. But the impression I've gotten from all involved is that it was "just a fun pose," not a reflection of an overt D/s relationship.
]]> By: Offbeat Submissive Soon-to-be Bride http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-70510 Offbeat Submissive Soon-to-be Bride Sun, 04 Jul 2010 20:22:05 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-70510 Personally, I LOVE this photo. This would absolutely be something I'd do. The idea that I'd be sitting at my Fiance's feet (And my Fiancee's feet, as I'm also poly and I wouldn't leave Her out) with a genuine smile on my face doesn't seem creepy to me at all. I'm kind of glad that this photo was posted, it just goes to show that as offbeat as we all think we are, there's usually someone offbeat in a way we'd never think of. (I didn't want to say "more offbeat" cause it isn't really a competition.) My vanilla family and friends may not get it, but my kinky friends, good lord, they would fawn over this! I'm not, however, digging the headlessness. Thumbs up on the paternalistic action going on, though. Personally, I LOVE this photo. This would absolutely be something I'd do. The idea that I'd be sitting at my Fiance's feet (And my Fiancee's feet, as I'm also poly and I wouldn't leave Her out) with a genuine smile on my face doesn't seem creepy to me at all.

I'm kind of glad that this photo was posted, it just goes to show that as offbeat as we all think we are, there's usually someone offbeat in a way we'd never think of. (I didn't want to say "more offbeat" cause it isn't really a competition.)

My vanilla family and friends may not get it, but my kinky friends, good lord, they would fawn over this!

I'm not, however, digging the headlessness. Thumbs up on the paternalistic action going on, though.

]]> By: Angela http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose/comment-page-1#comment-49556 Angela Sat, 08 Aug 2009 17:11:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/08/who-picked-this-engagement-pose#comment-49556 'That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"' This cracked me up. You can't get married if you don't have a head, silly groom! 'That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"'

This cracked me up.

You can't get married if you don't have a head, silly groom!

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