Who picked THIS engagement pose?
WTF!?
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on August 24, 2007
26 Responses
Although the photographer is totally skilled, I can't help but balk at the pose in this engagement photo.
Is it just me, or do the crossed arms of the headless groom-to-be comes off as creepily paternalistic? ("No, you're not getting your bride allowance — you've been naughty this week!") And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling.
Again, Anne Ruthmann is clearly an amazing photographer. (Check out her stuff!) But the pose strikes me as creepy. That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"
(Thanks to Anne Ruthmann for the photo!)
About Ariel Meadow Stallings
Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA.
Kelly Mahoney said
I'm not digging it. I don't like the annonymous nature of the groom.
Hammi said
Why does it matter who you're getting married to? The whole point is to just get married, is it not?
*snark intended*
Hammi said
I just looked at some of her other photos, most of which are clearly exceptional. The ring shot with the one hair- spectacular! However, there's one with the bride behind bars, and the groom sitting on the ground in front of them, as if *she* were locked in a cage.
Creepy.
Anne Ruthmann (the photographer) said
You crack me up!! I debated about whether or not I was going to post this particular picture… or even keep it for that matter! I think what makes it the most "off" is that she's actually smiling. I have other images where she's looking another direction and it feels more moody and fashion-like… but she wouldn't have liked them because she's self conscious about her side profile. Soooo…. perhaps it should've gone in the delete pile, or at least not been featured on my site… because it's definitely not my best… but on the other hand, all art is up for interpretation, and this image may inspire someone else to create something even more wonderful.
Luckily, the bride & groom loved them, which is all that matters to me. I'm definitely not for everyone's tastes. Stay tuned and you may see even more "disturbing" images in the future!!! HA!
Anne Ruthmann (the photographer) said
PS. The bride & groom have lots of "pretty" and "normal" pictures from this engagement session… I just tend to post some of the most "out there" stuff on my blog because it's unique and… dare I say… "offbeat."
Blake said
Yup, in all truth, I hate this shot, and I also LOVE most of the other shots from that set. I didn't see anything like that when I attended the wee little bridal shows here, or I'd have gotten a lot more excited about the engagement photos idea. Love the bars, the bridge, the echanted forest … and not a smidge of vaseline to be seen.
Scout's Honor said
Ahhh…. Starting the marriage out right by putting her in her place. As long as there's a pic of the bride walking the groom with dog collar, I'm okay with it.
Molly said
I didn't see the images like that at all. Some clients want images that are more like fashion photography than traditional wedding/engagement photos, and a lot of fashion photography has framing like this, and uses environmental elements like fences to add some visual interest. Sometimes, it really is no more than aesthetics.
Rebecca said
I like the creativity behind it, but it doesn't seem much like a wedding/engagement photo to me at all. But you know, experimentation always has its merits.
I'm sure the rest of her photos are no exception either, some of which are really superb.
Mary said
As a wedding photographer and daily reader of Anne's blog I like this photo! Getting people to smile, especially when they are camera shy is tricky. The lovely lady in the picture looks happy, and that's the point. I might have cropped more of the fellow out… but that's just me.
Keep up the great work Anne.
dee said
Maybe it's just the geek in me, but this shot reminds me of Princess Leia when she was enslaved by Jabba the Hutt…
kelleyatbrideorama said
I give kudos to the photographer for having a sense of humor about this photo; which I agree is rather …well…odd. Oh why sugar coat, its CREEPY!!! The headless Groom and his Slave Bride kneeling at his Headless Authority! And the fact that she is smiling makes it MORE creepy. But hey, if the intention was to be offbeat and different…then you have achieved it and I applaud you for that. We are all discussing it, so that means it has gone from being just a picture to actual ART. Woohoo!
wiseblood said
Part of the problem with the pose is that it is taken in a (white) male dominated society. While in some parts of the country this is changing quicker than others, it is hard to view this photo outside of the societal context. For me this makes the photo more honestly on beat and less radically off beat.
Lisa Vandever said
That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she’s all, “Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!â€
Coming from that perspective.. I think it's kinda hot!
Anie said
I thought this picture was incredibly hot. But then I'm a sub
and the idea of being curled up at my man's feet while he stands protectively over me is very comforting to me. Men and women may be equals, but MY relationship has sphere's of influence, and I'm happy with that. I have to agree with Kelley that I think this particular picture manages to actually be less just a couple portrait and more actual art.
Angela said
'That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"'
This cracked me up.
You can't get married if you don't have a head, silly groom!
Offbeat Submissive Soon-to-be Bride said
Personally, I LOVE this photo. This would absolutely be something I'd do. The idea that I'd be sitting at my Fiance's feet (And my Fiancee's feet, as I'm also poly and I wouldn't leave Her out) with a genuine smile on my face doesn't seem creepy to me at all.
I'm kind of glad that this photo was posted, it just goes to show that as offbeat as we all think we are, there's usually someone offbeat in a way we'd never think of. (I didn't want to say "more offbeat" cause it isn't really a competition.)
My vanilla family and friends may not get it, but my kinky friends, good lord, they would fawn over this!
I'm not, however, digging the headlessness. Thumbs up on the paternalistic action going on, though.
Ariel said
Offbeat Submissive, if I thought this photo was shot from a kink perspective, I would love it. But the impression I've gotten from all involved is that it was "just a fun pose," not a reflection of an overt D/s relationship.
Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: said
"That is, unless the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look who I let out of the dungeon for the afternoon! Tee hee!"
What if the couple pictured are into some kinky bdsm power-play dynamics and the bride is smiling cuz she's all, "Look, he let me out of the dungeon for the afternoon, and I'm not even on my leash! Tee hee!" Would it be okay then? I'm just curious, because (after also reading your other article on a similar picture with gender roles reversed) it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.'
"And there's just something very subservient about sticking the bride-to-be on the ground, wrapped around his feet and smiling."
So what? Maybe she is subservient. Maybe that couple, and many other couples, enjoy practicing traditional gender roles. Is there something wrong with that? It's not like the photographer was all like, "Bride, you have to sit on the ground at your husband's feet because you are a woman and therefore should act like a slave to him." It's not like this photo has a note attached to it that says "Women, take note! This is how you should be – a slave to your husband – and you should love it… and if you don't then you should be ashamed of yourself!"
I do agree with you on the head cut off being creepy. It's like she's posing in front of a statue, not a human being. Yuck!
Ariel said
it seems like you're just projecting views of 'female subservience is horrifying but male subservience is okay.'
My goal was simply a tongue-in-cheek challenge the cultural assumptions that women are subservient to their husbands. I'm all for couples having whatever power dynamics work for them.
Oh Noes, a Submissive Woman!!! D: said
Oh, alright… I guess I just didn't see this photo, or other photos like it, as projecting a cultural assumption. I was thinking of it more as simply depicting this couples' relationship. But that's just me.
meagan said
i think thats the point of the picture… i love it
Aimee said
If it weren't for his absent head. I would love this shot. However, I AM in a fun-kinky relationship where this type of shot would be absolutely appropriate. Although he would love to have his head included.