Also, I wanted to say to Molly- your comment made me do a little dance! I'm so glad our panel made a difference for you!

As per the pronoun/identity discussion, we use the word 'gay' playfully, almost slang-like, but we both identify as queer. While I refer to Elroi with masculine pronouns, various people in El's life do refer to him by both masculine and feminine pronouns and he's generally ok with that as long as he's not girl-ified as in, "Hey, girl!".
In print, he would prefer to go by gender-neutral pronouns such as 'ze' or 'hir'. In an ideal world those pronouns would work for speech too but whenever I try to use them I end up feeling like I'm faking an accent, ala Madonna or something.

Also, I showed El this blog and he was thrilled to see us included but especially to see folks discussing his gender in such supportive ways! He's a sociologist focused on sex and gender so as well as this being about his life, it's also his life study. So thank you MM, and thank you Ariel for brightening his day!