Comments on: Your wedding is not a contest

By: Cheap Fiancee

Cheap Fiancee — Wed, 16 Sep 2009 06:09:12 +0000

I really love this blog and this post. I'm just starting my wedding planning and I'm finding its too far easy to get caught up with the brainwashing of bridal advertising, family members, etc. that say you need this and that or else its not a true wedding. planning authentic and honest wedding will be my new bridal mantra.

By: NEPA Bride − To All The Haters…

NEPA Bride − To All The Haters… — Thu, 13 Aug 2009 03:20:07 +0000

[...] seen it discussed on the Wedding Bee forums and as Ariel at Offbeat Bride will remind you – YOUR WEDDING IS NOT A CONTEST. My wedding is not a contest. I want to throw an awesome party and get married in front of all my [...]

By: Offbeat Bride | Tiffany & Brandon's Orange Friday the 13th family blending

Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:53:33 +0000

[...] My advice to other offbeat brides: You don't have to be a freak to be offbeat. When I first started planing my wedding I spent months trying to come up with ways to out do all the offbeat weddings I had seen. But in the end it just wasn't me. I didn't dye my hair a funny color, I actually dyed it back to its natural color. I had my wedding in a church, even though I'm pagan, but used fun music instead of the traditional wedding music. My point is be true to who you are because you don't have to be over the top to be different. [Editor's note: AMEN! Remember, everyone: YOUR WEDDING IS NOT A CONTEST!] [...]

By: Amy & Scott’s Hauntingly Beautiful Eastlake Victorian Wedding

Amy & Scott’s Hauntingly Beautiful Eastlake Victorian Wedding — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 00:13:25 +0000

[...] Ariel Stalling's wisdom still ringing in my ears, in James Earl Jones' voice — "YOUR WEDDING IS NOT A CONTEST" — I have to admit that this event, which lodged in my head and rattled there for months [...]

By: And, I’m back « Nicole's Wedding Blog

And, I’m back « Nicole's Wedding Blog — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 18:28:32 +0000

[...] Fourth, I didn't miss my wedding blogs. I really, really didn't. They are great for ideas, but I was way too swept up in all this wedding mumbo jumbo. There's WIC and then there is Indie WIC… and I'm tired of it. I'm remembering that my wedding is not a contest. [...]

By: Sandra

Sandra — Fri, 05 Jun 2009 00:12:34 +0000

I know this was written a long time ago … but this really helped me today. thank you!

By: Alexandra

Alexandra — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 09:54:20 +0000

Awesome. Great affirmations.

I think the central point, after the vows, is that you're saying to your community, "We are serious about each other and our relationship, and we want you to treat us that way".

Cheers.

By: shauna

shauna — Wed, 20 May 2009 23:58:02 +0000

Hi Ariel,
I love this article! You are so correct that each couple needs to make their wedding their OWN. It doesn't matter what you decide to do or not do, so long as you, your friends and family can say, OH, this is sooo them!
I am actually a wedding planner who had an "off beat" wedding and am always trying to express to my couples to try to insert their identity into the wedding.
I've just had my own A-Ha moment and realized that I've allowed myself to get caught up in the "wedding'ness" of things and should advertise my company more in line with who I am – a sort of Off-Beat Wedding Planner. Thank you for your site. I would love to put your book and link on my website.

By: A few of our favorite things » The WIC madness

A few of our favorite things » The WIC madness — Fri, 17 Apr 2009 22:48:00 +0000

[...] also like this one from Ariel over at Offbeat Bride: "Your wedding is not a contest." This entry was written on April 17th, 2009 by Roaring Judy and filed under Our Wedding. Tags: [...]

By: Tara

Tara — Wed, 18 Mar 2009 18:39:44 +0000

I just joined today and read this, and though to be honest I don't feel like I've having any struggles as far as feeling like it's a contest go, this post made me cry. I am in the very very beginning stages of planning, and I think this is an amazing first thing to read before you ever start planning. It should be permalinked on every single wedding website that exists.