Comments on: Diamond as dick size http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:51:34 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Clarrie http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-53657 Clarrie Tue, 03 Nov 2009 22:12:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-53657 We chose a gold and diamond engagement ring (or titanium and diamond in my partner's case) because while it wasn't that important to us, we found that we really liked the idea of being the godmother in Morgan's story and passing the ring on to a future godchild/child/grandchild/etc to use. We wouldn't have spent as much just on ourselves, but really liked the thought that it would be something that a future generation could keep and use in its own right, or sell and have enough money to serve a useful purpose. We chose a gold and diamond engagement ring (or titanium and diamond in my partner's case) because while it wasn't that important to us, we found that we really liked the idea of being the godmother in Morgan's story and passing the ring on to a future godchild/child/grandchild/etc to use.
We wouldn't have spent as much just on ourselves, but really liked the thought that it would be something that a future generation could keep and use in its own right, or sell and have enough money to serve a useful purpose.

]]> By: Morgan http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-52795 Morgan Thu, 22 Oct 2009 19:38:25 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-52795 I wear a bigger diamond than most people I know - the ring belonged to my boyfriend's godmother, who had extravagant taste in jewelry. They were very close, and before she passed away a few years ago, she insisted he take the ring for his future bride. It made me a little self conscious at first, something so big and sparkly, but once I got used to it, it was fine. When anyone says anything about it, I simply explain that it belonged to a beloved godmother, and everyone focuses on that instead. I wear a bigger diamond than most people I know – the ring belonged to my boyfriend's godmother, who had extravagant taste in jewelry. They were very close, and before she passed away a few years ago, she insisted he take the ring for his future bride.

It made me a little self conscious at first, something so big and sparkly, but once I got used to it, it was fine. When anyone says anything about it, I simply explain that it belonged to a beloved godmother, and everyone focuses on that instead.

]]> By: EleChic http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-52738 EleChic Tue, 20 Oct 2009 17:15:23 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-52738 So I'm planning on proposing to my guy over Halloween wknd while I'm visiting him in Canada. We were previously engaged but this time is for good (long story) It's only fair that I propose this time right? I mean he did it last time. But is it weird that I LOVE my wedding band (it's from Circa1930s, I love antique things) from last time and sort of just want to use that instead of an engagment ring and then at some point have my diamond set (antique 3/4carat fancy canary 90yrold that I inherited)? Actually my ring of choice if I didn't already have a diamond would be from Green Karat, the First Fig ring but I can't justify spending extra money when we have immigration costs to contend with. Well I guess the fact that I'm saying this outloud probably means I'm decided already but feedback is always good! I'm just soooo excited! : ) So I'm planning on proposing to my guy over Halloween wknd while I'm visiting him in Canada. We were previously engaged but this time is for good (long story) It's only fair that I propose this time right? I mean he did it last time. But is it weird that I LOVE my wedding band (it's from Circa1930s, I love antique things) from last time and sort of just want to use that instead of an engagment ring and then at some point have my diamond set (antique 3/4carat fancy canary 90yrold that I inherited)? Actually my ring of choice if I didn't already have a diamond would be from Green Karat, the First Fig ring but I can't justify spending extra money when we have immigration costs to contend with. Well I guess the fact that I'm saying this outloud probably means I'm decided already but feedback is always good! I'm just soooo excited! : )

]]> By: caroline http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-52736 caroline Tue, 20 Oct 2009 16:15:24 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-52736 I actually only have ever had one rude comment on my rings (generally if other people even notice it, they say "oh how pretty", like a normal person would). It was actually a friend of my husband's. He asked to see my ring, then turned to the husband and said "You didn't get her a diamond?" I mean.... really, who says that? I have had a few people ask why he picked Tanzanite (it it your birthstone, etc. etc.), which I think falls under reasonable questions (he happened to like the color, actually). But anything that's effectively asking "how much did you pay for that thing?" is just a ridiculous thing to ask. I actually only have ever had one rude comment on my rings (generally if other people even notice it, they say "oh how pretty", like a normal person would).

It was actually a friend of my husband's. He asked to see my ring, then turned to the husband and said "You didn't get her a diamond?" I mean…. really, who says that? I have had a few people ask why he picked Tanzanite (it it your birthstone, etc. etc.), which I think falls under reasonable questions (he happened to like the color, actually). But anything that's effectively asking "how much did you pay for that thing?" is just a ridiculous thing to ask.

]]> By: thestik http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-51958 thestik Thu, 01 Oct 2009 08:30:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-51958 Heh. I avoided the ring drama altogether and proposed to my fiance with a watch. Later on, I bought myself a similar styled watch, so we have our engagement watches. I tell people that I'm engaged but never get asked about my ring. Then again, I usually start off with "I propsed to him.", so I guess the ring becomes an afterthought when they hear I turned tradition on its head. And since I'm only going to have one ring, I'll be getting a band with diamonds and sapphires (mostly likely from Brilliant Earth). Heh. I avoided the ring drama altogether and proposed to my fiance with a watch. Later on, I bought myself a similar styled watch, so we have our engagement watches. I tell people that I'm engaged but never get asked about my ring. Then again, I usually start off with "I propsed to him.", so I guess the ring becomes an afterthought when they hear I turned tradition on its head. And since I'm only going to have one ring, I'll be getting a band with diamonds and sapphires (mostly likely from Brilliant Earth).

]]> By: Aleisha http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-51953 Aleisha Thu, 01 Oct 2009 04:16:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-51953 Huh. I've been engaged for about 4 months now, and I can honestly say that only one person has ever inquired about the size of my diamond - my friend's boyfriend (now fiance). Turns out his question was more research-based than personal! Ha! The rest of my friends and family members have almost unanimously responded with - that's SO "you". Really, that's the best compliment I could receive. Huh. I've been engaged for about 4 months now, and I can honestly say that only one person has ever inquired about the size of my diamond – my friend's boyfriend (now fiance). Turns out his question was more research-based than personal! Ha! The rest of my friends and family members have almost unanimously responded with – that's SO "you". Really, that's the best compliment I could receive.

]]> By: Angela http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-50245 Angela Mon, 17 Aug 2009 03:17:02 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-50245 Fuck them? With a 10.75-inch cock, perhaps? Fuck them? With a 10.75-inch cock, perhaps?

]]> By: Nathalie http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-42033 Nathalie Mon, 04 May 2009 02:45:29 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-42033 My goodness there are a few pointed comments here. I don't think having/not having a ring/diamond is a big deal, but I have been feeling pretty crappy because of how other people treat it. "How many carats" and people talking about how big theirs are. I loved my ring dearly when I first got it. In fact, it was exactly what I wanted, except with real diamonds instead of fake (I didn't have the heart to ask him to exchange it). But women AND MEN make me feel self conscious about it, and that's what really upsets me. Why can't I just like what I like, and that be the end of it? Why does everything have to be all about appearances and socially approved "beauty." Why the hell is bigger better anyway? It just gets in the way. *sigh* My goodness there are a few pointed comments here.
I don't think having/not having a ring/diamond is a big deal, but I have been feeling pretty crappy because of how other people treat it. "How many carats" and people talking about how big theirs are. I loved my ring dearly when I first got it. In fact, it was exactly what I wanted, except with real diamonds instead of fake (I didn't have the heart to ask him to exchange it). But women AND MEN make me feel self conscious about it, and that's what really upsets me. Why can't I just like what I like, and that be the end of it? Why does everything have to be all about appearances and socially approved "beauty." Why the hell is bigger better anyway? It just gets in the way. *sigh*

]]> By: Naye http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-39440 Naye Tue, 07 Apr 2009 19:07:51 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-39440 I agree with the comments about this being a "reversed pissing contest". I love my ring and I make no apologies about what my fiance could or could not afford. To some it may be extravagant, and to others modest, but it's on my god damn finger and that's all that matters. I also have no qualms about sharing carat size, no matter what the intention of the question. I'm proud of my ring, simple as that. The best advice I received is to meet snarkiness with snarkiness. Guaranteed to piss most people off...... or at very least shut them the hell up. Don't apologize for what you love!! I agree with the comments about this being a "reversed pissing contest".

I love my ring and I make no apologies about what my fiance could or could not afford. To some it may be extravagant, and to others modest, but it's on my god damn finger and that's all that matters.

I also have no qualms about sharing carat size, no matter what the intention of the question. I'm proud of my ring, simple as that.

The best advice I received is to meet snarkiness with snarkiness. Guaranteed to piss most people off…… or at very least shut them the hell up. Don't apologize for what you love!!

]]> By: Lula http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size/comment-page-1#comment-37733 Lula Fri, 20 Mar 2009 17:15:03 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/05/diamond-as-dick-size#comment-37733 I like Sara's story. Sounds like a lovely ring, Sara, no matter what it looks like. My SIL's ring was peridot and sterling silver, and she wears it now on her right hand; $35 was all my brother could afford. Their wedding bands are also silver. My mother never had one at all (they could afford one now but she doesn't care about it), and her wedding band was made of 12k dental gold by my uncle! I used to work in an office full of young women and engagement rings were definitely a pissing contest. Solitaires were no longer good enough; they were shooting for three-stones. One girl had one picked out that cost $4500, never mind that neither she nor her fiancé had "career" jobs or any savings. It bordered on delusional. I'm not [very] opposed to engagement rings, but there's no way I'd let a guy spend 1/3 of a new car on one for me. Yeah, I'd be excited about the <i>engagement</i>, but not so much the ring. I like Sara's story. Sounds like a lovely ring, Sara, no matter what it looks like.

My SIL's ring was peridot and sterling silver, and she wears it now on her right hand; $35 was all my brother could afford. Their wedding bands are also silver. My mother never had one at all (they could afford one now but she doesn't care about it), and her wedding band was made of 12k dental gold by my uncle!

I used to work in an office full of young women and engagement rings were definitely a pissing contest. Solitaires were no longer good enough; they were shooting for three-stones. One girl had one picked out that cost $4500, never mind that neither she nor her fiancé had "career" jobs or any savings. It bordered on delusional.

I'm not [very] opposed to engagement rings, but there's no way I'd let a guy spend 1/3 of a new car on one for me. Yeah, I'd be excited about the engagement, but not so much the ring.

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