Diamond as dick size
Posted by Ariel · Advice

Great feedback/advice, thank you! Next time someone asks of size, I will simply respond with, "I don't know." It's probably the safest response I can go with!

Thanks again.

You can always walk around with a ring pop. Think about it: When someone comments on your ring, you can say "Would you like a taste?"

You know, I wondered about that kind of thing for years. I used to work in the jewelry industry and the "rule of thumb," yech, that was completely the invention of the DeBeers diamond people, is that your ring should cost 3 months' salary. But is that 3 months's salary for a brain surgeon or a high-school English teacher? Isn't that kind of relative? Does landing a surgeon entitle a woman to a bigger, more ostentatious ring than if she "settled" for someone with less earning power? That whole deal just made me cringe every time some poor dude walked into the store to check out the solitaires.

In fact, the idea of engagement rings, period, has always seemed kind of silly. First of all, after you're married an engagement ring is useless. What's it for, anyway? To mark his territory? As collateral in case he doesn't fulfill his promise? As a deposit on future affection?

The other thing that seems ponderous is how hackeneyed that particular idiom is. No matter what a designer does with the engagement ring style, it's still a diamond solitaire on some kind of band. The very worst are the 1/4 carat 4-prong mounts on thin bands that are cranked out by the hundreds and sold at Sears.

The man who buys that for his intended is telling her that his love for her is exactly like every love that has ever existed and she (and said love) are absolutely not special, unique or original at all, because if that ring is a symbol of his feelings, then that's what tha ring is saying. Props to your man for doing something original and thoughtful – I really am in support of that, and think it's great that you love him, and your ring, and I hope this all doesn't come across as too snarky.

My own ring? I didn't have one. Like I said, I think it's kind of a waste of money and there is no engagement ring style invented on earth that I wanted to wear, so I got a very expensive wedding ring instead. It's 22 karat gold, granulated, and has a custom-cut buff-top rectangular red garnet set in a high bezel box. People stop me on the street to look at it, and so far no one's asked the size, cost or carat weight involved. You just go ahead and tell people you don't know. Or get really bold and tell them it's 10 carats but it's wearing a girdle today because it's afraid of looking fat.

i told my fiance v firmly many years ago that there was room for only one ring on my hands. my wedding ring.

Seeing as how there are no diamonds that are actually eco-friendly…I went for the Herkimer diamond which is a very clear quartz crystal. It keeps you out of the c/rock size game and focuses on the ecofriendliness. Personally, I think you're a little more infatuated with the carat size than you're leading on to be.

see, i'm kind of like a magpie and am attracted to anything sparkly and therefore looooove my ring. However, I did get my fiance one…I never really thought it was fair that I got a rock and he didn't.

I haven't actually had anyone ask me for my measurements yet, but I think I would also go with the whole "I don't know" thing…I mean, it's a little rude right? It's like asking what if cost. I don't go around asking people how much their earrings cost…

My ring is, as said above, a 1/4 ct., 4-prongs, on a thin band, regular engagement ring. At about $300, it was what we could afford, and I love it.

Surprisingly, the only person who's asked the size was the lady at the "showroom" when she was taking my resizing order. I thought the general population would be a lot ruder than that, although I will concede to getting a couple of "cutes". But fuck 'em, if they want me to have a bigger/better ring, they should have contributed if they care so much.

What I don't understand is some of the judgment associated with it. If people choose not to have an engagement ring, more power to them, but why does it make you less of a person to value tradition? Or, to just want an excuse to buy someone you love something sparkley to commemorate the moment when you asked them to be your partner in life. If it's not for you, then great, but why say others are less for liking it?

Hey Tammy…I decided that I wanted NO diamond, no stone whatsoever…and I get hella compliments on my heavy-duty wide hammered gold band all the time. It's my engagement ring, soon to be called "my wedding ring". Same ring, yo.

There have been a couple of rude comments such as "that's not an engagement ring, where's the diamond?" but for the most part people (especially men) have loved it. Women have been most likely to wrinkle the nose, but whatever. It's not their ring, it's mine.

I have had similar experiences. Some people ask about the 4Cs. I don't know. I don't care.

"But let me tell you about the history…" Some people are interested and some aren't. Again, I don't care.

I have been caught staring at my ring a few times. I will admit to it, but it has nothing to do with the size or stone. I am really excited about what the ring symbolizes.

I am so freaking giddy that we are getting married! (I never thought I would be so excited about a wedding)

86 the bows and matching dresses, please!

I don't love how you called that bride out. It's not like 1carat is bragging rights anyway. She knows how big it is and that's no surprise; most indie brides at least help pick their rings. I'm also not big on just plain lying. Brushing it off by saying you don't care, fine, and if talking to people you don't give a crap about, go ahead and lie, but just because it's not particularly relevant doesn't mean you're not going to know. H3ll, knowing diamond sizing could just be a result of understanding how to make jewelry, like my dad. And as for no diamonds being ecofriendly, it's true, that's not complete bull. They have to be harvested somehow. But Canadian diamonds, for example, do an excellent job caring for the environment when removing their rocks. You can get extra eco-cred for choosing not to dig up pieces of the earth, but don't pretend like you're a goddess because you did what you wanted.

My ring isn’t very special visually…other than it has a wanna-be black hills gold look to it..and it’s no longer a diamond in the center. It still has diamonds, just like teeny ones.
It is one of those mass produced gold and diamond rings sold in a department store or a –Mart store. I don’t know which. See, my Dad bought this ring for my mom. This was their wedding and engagement ring. It was welded together shortly after the wedding. My dad paid about $300 for it in the late eighties.
My parents divorced after 7 years. Then, my dad died when I was 14. My mom did drugs (she’s clean now). She pawned her ring at some point. My grandmother bought the ring out of pawn and had a ruby put in it, as it was now her ring and she had always wanted a birthstone ring.
When I got the ring, my grandma handed it to me, not my husband, and I had to wear it on my pinky until we could find an affordable place to get it resized. It was four sizes too small.
People rarely comment on it, and when they do they are obviously under-impressed. And I feel crappy about it. I feel like I should have a better ring… Then I remember that this ring is a family heirloom. It tells the story about the love my parents shared and the love my grandmother has for her daughter and grandchildren (the first to marry would get their pick of my mom’s 2 wedding rings), and finally, of the love my husband and I share. Not to mention that I miss my father terribly and this was a nice way to include him in our wedding (and marriage).
My ring has a lot of history. In fact, it could be a rather depressing reminder of all the shit my life has been. However, I love my ring because of the all that shit, and because I never thought that I’d be blessed enough to be in love.

MORAL OF THE STORY: The best way I have heard wedding rings described is something to the effect of the rings are a symbol of the commitment made between two people as they get married. The rings aren’t the commitment; they are simply the outward sign of what has occurred.

I've been asked a couple of times, and have been able to respond in complete honesty "I don't know and I don't care, it's exactly the style I like best and he picked it without my knowing!"

when my boyfriend (now fiance) told me he was likely to propose but couldnt afford a nice diamond I told him to get a fake, and just dont tell anyone. He was shocked at the idea, as his rule with buying jewelery is to buy the best, no fakes, no low quality. I showed him http://www.carat.cc and got what looks like a 2 carat diamond flanked by 1 carat stones. really, its all fake.

Canadian diamonds aren't all that great. The diamond companies are currently getting permission to dump all their toxic crud into living lakes up north. Lakes that won't be living for much longer after that.

AND I love the rock size = cock size analogy!

My baby gave me his great grandfathers cross to wear till out wedding day. Its handmade from silver and has a tiny little topaz in it. I do wear a silver ring with some CZ in it but thats just to satisfy my desire to wear a ring until we elope, well if we ever get $40 we need for the stupid license

I agree with the comments about this being a "reversed pissing contest".

I love my ring and I make no apologies about what my fiance could or could not afford. To some it may be extravagant, and to others modest, but it's on my god damn finger and that's all that matters.

I also have no qualms about sharing carat size, no matter what the intention of the question. I'm proud of my ring, simple as that.

The best advice I received is to meet snarkiness with snarkiness. Guaranteed to piss most people off…… or at very least shut them the hell up. Don't apologize for what you love!!

Fuck them? With a 10.75-inch cock, perhaps?

Heh. I avoided the ring drama altogether and proposed to my fiance with a watch. Later on, I bought myself a similar styled watch, so we have our engagement watches. I tell people that I'm engaged but never get asked about my ring. Then again, I usually start off with "I propsed to him.", so I guess the ring becomes an afterthought when they hear I turned tradition on its head. And since I'm only going to have one ring, I'll be getting a band with diamonds and sapphires (mostly likely from Brilliant Earth).

So I'm planning on proposing to my guy over Halloween wknd while I'm visiting him in Canada. We were previously engaged but this time is for good (long story) It's only fair that I propose this time right? I mean he did it last time. But is it weird that I LOVE my wedding band (it's from Circa1930s, I love antique things) from last time and sort of just want to use that instead of an engagment ring and then at some point have my diamond set (antique 3/4carat fancy canary 90yrold that I inherited)? Actually my ring of choice if I didn't already have a diamond would be from Green Karat, the First Fig ring but I can't justify spending extra money when we have immigration costs to contend with. Well I guess the fact that I'm saying this outloud probably means I'm decided already but feedback is always good! I'm just soooo excited! : )

We chose a gold and diamond engagement ring (or titanium and diamond in my partner's case) because while it wasn't that important to us, we found that we really liked the idea of being the godmother in Morgan's story and passing the ring on to a future godchild/child/grandchild/etc to use.
We wouldn't have spent as much just on ourselves, but really liked the thought that it would be something that a future generation could keep and use in its own right, or sell and have enough money to serve a useful purpose.