Comments on: When brides don't squeal enough

By: Tricia

Tricia — Tue, 07 Jun 2011 19:38:05 +0000

My husband and I got met with many stares when we got married engaged in 2006 and didn't know when we were getting married. We canceled our wedding date a hundred times and by the time we finally set and date and actually got married on that date I was too pregnant to fit my wedding dress so I wore a prom dress I purchased for a nice price (light blue and silver), had a week to plan the wedding (July 7, 2007) and just had 10 people (including minister, my husband, and I) at an outdoor wedding at my parents house (on their back porch). Yes non-traditional, but I LOVE it… although, I kinda wanna wear a white wedding dress now lol We plan to do a re-newing of our vows ceremony and doing the big wedding then… someday lol

By: Kelly

Kelly — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 05:23:55 +0000

A coworker of mine asked me how the wedding planing was going and I shrugged and told her I haven't really gotten into it with school going on still. She says something to the extent of 'my god your so unexcited about this. This should be some of the happiest times of your life'. Like seriously? NO. My fiance is on the other side of the fucking country. not happy-dancey times. Glad I'm not the only one annoyed by this kind of thing!

By: Caitlin

Caitlin — Tue, 18 Jan 2011 18:57:59 +0000

I want to hug you right now.

By: sarah

sarah — Sun, 09 Jan 2011 03:14:13 +0000

This is one of the reasons that keeping me from GETTING offically engaged, Im really scared and nervous about planning the wedding and I know the second I do get engaged everyone will be asking about THE wedding…I really just want to run away to the mountains with my immediate family and 10 friends and have a low key but super fun weekend. yet im afraid of upseting my extended family.
Why have a wedding in the first place if it is sooo freaking stressful..here is a question that i know has been asked before but…IS IT WORTH IT??

By: Elizabeth

Elizabeth — Thu, 06 Jan 2011 21:44:00 +0000

I know how you feel. My fiancee and I felt squirmy about even having a registry for our upcoming wedding as we've been together for four and a half years, and have lived together for three, so we've got everything we need. Our friends are college students, young families just getting started in life, and relatives who have been hit hard by the economic downturn. We're also looking at a possible cross-country move in the next five years, so even though we appreciate the sentiment, the last thing we need is more stuff!

My original idea was to do a non-perishable food drive for a local pantry in lieu of wedding gifts, but my fiancee and I bowed to pressure from our relatives to register at a couple of places. My mom (who is normally a wonderful person) told me that I should be "all giddy" about the "potential loot." The registry person at Bed, Bath & Beyond kept urging us toward the $900 Caphelon dishes and cookware despite our repeated wishes to keep the registry small, simple, and inexpensive. She kept telling us that our relatives would want to buy us something "really, really nice, not just something you'd normally give for a birthday or something" and expressed astonishment that we wanted the less-expensive linens and simpler, smaller kitchen stuff. It was more than a little frustrating to have to keep reasserting our non-greed!

By: becbec

becbec — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 09:09:19 +0000

Thanks guys, I love those reality check answers you've been giving. I usually love to organise stuff – and of course love my FH – but this wedding planning is driving me a bit nutty, especially given I have a fulltime job and all. Plus my mum and FMIL keep plumbing me for advice on what they should wear. Don't know, don't really care!

I'm enjoying maintaining the wacky line (vulva sculpture, WTF?? nice!)to keep things in perspective. My friend of 20 years has just gotten engaged as well, and she and share a mutual revulsion for some of the OTT wedding traditions around, so I like to share the funny stories from my planning to date (Dad: "so, where will you live after you get married?" Me: "umm, in my house?") There's usually wine involved. Plus my work team are all guys, so when the conversation leads to my wedding (yes, really), I like to tell them that I'm eschewing a veil because it's just a throwback to virgin sacrifices, and that I'd better not catch them hanging round my dressmaker like creepy uncles. They love it (I think)

I hope to remember the jokes on The Day, when I'm knocking back Rescue Remedy and swearing about having chosen peonies over roses (or whatever)

By: aaa

aaa — Sun, 19 Dec 2010 07:30:55 +0000

i have the same problem, for the opposite reason. this is how the conversation goes:

"How's wedding planning?" "Fine, we're completely done actually." "What?!?! You're done already?!?"

As far as I can tell, people think I should be freaking out about flowers. Honestly I don't have the energy to care much about our wedding. I really don't. I just want it to be over and done with so people can stop bugging me about it. The wedding is just a social obligation that we feel compelled to fulfill and that I'm not very excited about.

By: Lucrezea

Lucrezea — Wed, 15 Dec 2010 18:32:06 +0000

Honest to goodness, I wish I could talk about our wedding more. No one asks us about it or how it's going, and I feel like the tool bringing it up with people.

By: Courtney Marie

Courtney Marie — Mon, 13 Dec 2010 00:44:46 +0000

OMG!!! We've been engaged for 3 years! I'm getting the same reactions! My fiance's step mom and her family make faces every time they ask a question about the wedding and I don't give the right answer. I don't want a bridal shower but I'm getting one anyway because they can't understand why I don't want 1000 count sheets and new towels. I have sheets and towels that work perfectly fine! What is it with "just do it for the gifts"??? I'm not getting married for the gifts!
Fortunately I have an amazing group of girls around me who have been my friends for 10+ years and understand me. They are so supportive and enthusiastic about every decision I've made.

By: Susan

Susan — Fri, 10 Dec 2010 13:16:40 +0000

Oh yes, how I agree with this. How's the planning? It isn't and I hate it or badly were some responses. But you should be enjoying it. Yes I enjoyed the bits that went well (few) and it all turned out ok in the end but was just far too complicated (and it shouldn't be…) argh.

We should all be able to get excited and enjoy it, but the whole faff makes us hate it! I think I actually got excited the day before because everything had been organised/done and if it wasn't. It was tough!

Still recovering really!