Comments on: When brides don't squeal enough http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Sat, 21 Nov 2009 12:51:34 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Lisey http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-53091 Lisey Wed, 28 Oct 2009 12:17:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-53091 It is three weeks until my "big day" and I swear I wish I had found this site earlier in my planning. I am normally easily excitable, giggly and smiley. But the planning process of this event has made me turn around to people and tell them to elope. I wish I did it when I had the chance. I am planning a wedding 5 hours from where I currently live and the bridal party is a logistical nightmare, every grand idea I have had for my day to be my own has been shot down in flames by either my mother or my sheer bad luck in getting what I need. I've gotten to the point where I just don't care anymore. I'm not even trying to make this day different, save for the karaoke at the reception and the take home mini lolly jars. I honestly think the reason I wanted to have a proper wedding was mostly for my Grandmother, who sadly passed away in February. So when people ask me if I am excited, I just reply I am stressed and it is hard to be excited when there is so much work to be done. Most women are sympathetic, but some think I am a bit weird. It is three weeks until my "big day" and I swear I wish I had found this site earlier in my planning. I am normally easily excitable, giggly and smiley. But the planning process of this event has made me turn around to people and tell them to elope. I wish I did it when I had the chance. I am planning a wedding 5 hours from where I currently live and the bridal party is a logistical nightmare, every grand idea I have had for my day to be my own has been shot down in flames by either my mother or my sheer bad luck in getting what I need. I've gotten to the point where I just don't care anymore. I'm not even trying to make this day different, save for the karaoke at the reception and the take home mini lolly jars. I honestly think the reason I wanted to have a proper wedding was mostly for my Grandmother, who sadly passed away in February. So when people ask me if I am excited, I just reply I am stressed and it is hard to be excited when there is so much work to be done. Most women are sympathetic, but some think I am a bit weird.

]]> By: ShiloM http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-10808 ShiloM Fri, 30 May 2008 20:43:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-10808 I'm naturally a very gregarious person who at times has been known to squeel, scream, get a cutest-little-bunny-in the pet-store-can-I-have-him?! overload, but sometimes I'm tired too. Sometimes, I've talked about the wedding, and explained all excitedly about every little detail, and I'm just done. And yet when I say in a normal, happy tone that yes, I'm excited, and it's all rainbows and clover, and all that schmootz, I still get a half-joking, but really actually bitchy underneath. Well, you don't sound that excited...It's your wedding! You should be excited! And to them I say: What's your name again? Because we obvoiously don't know each other. I hate feeling forced to be "on" to please the people who want some kind of wedding orgasm from me everytime they mention it. Yes, I'm excited but come on, even some speed happy ecstacy popping pink bunny can't be EXCITED!!!!! 24/7. So how am I supposed to be? I'm naturally a very gregarious person who at times has been known to squeel, scream, get a cutest-little-bunny-in the pet-store-can-I-have-him?! overload, but sometimes I'm tired too. Sometimes, I've talked about the wedding, and explained all excitedly about every little detail, and I'm just done. And yet when I say in a normal, happy tone that yes, I'm excited, and it's all rainbows and clover, and all that schmootz, I still get a half-joking, but really actually bitchy underneath. Well, you don't sound that excited…It's your wedding! You should be excited! And to them I say: What's your name again? Because we obvoiously don't know each other. I hate feeling forced to be "on" to please the people who want some kind of wedding orgasm from me everytime they mention it. Yes, I'm excited but come on, even some speed happy ecstacy popping pink bunny can't be EXCITED!!!!! 24/7. So how am I supposed to be?

]]> By: tiger lili http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-6341 tiger lili Thu, 14 Feb 2008 22:26:07 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-6341 That's hilarious. Everyone at work thinks that I'm either a fembot or dreading marriage because I'm not talking about the wedding non-stop or brandishing a wedding binder like a Jinzu knife in the breakroom! Isn't saying yes proof enough that you love the guy and are excited? Duh! Thanks for the suggestions. That's hilarious. Everyone at work thinks that I'm either a fembot or dreading marriage because I'm not talking about the wedding non-stop or brandishing a wedding binder like a Jinzu knife in the breakroom! Isn't saying yes proof enough that you love the guy and are excited? Duh! Thanks for the suggestions.

]]> By: Jen http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-6035 Jen Thu, 07 Feb 2008 16:08:52 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-6035 Great advice! One of my co-workers asked me how I was feeling about the wedding and I said "a little stressed out, to tell you the truth" and she actually told me I was SUPPOSED to say that I was excited... SUPPOSED TO SAY????? Great advice! One of my co-workers asked me how I was feeling about the wedding and I said "a little stressed out, to tell you the truth" and she actually told me I was SUPPOSED to say that I was excited… SUPPOSED TO SAY?????

]]> By: Heather http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-5825 Heather Sat, 02 Feb 2008 20:53:09 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-5825 *the, not there.... Wedding planning is frying my brain-finger typing coordination.
  • the, not there…. Wedding planning is frying my brain-finger typing coordination.
    • ]]>         By: Heather http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-5824 Heather Sat, 02 Feb 2008 20:52:34 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-5824 I've taken to replying "No" with a dead on stare. Just let it hang in there air. It makes squealers really uncomfortable. I've taken to replying "No" with a dead on stare. Just let it hang in there air. It makes squealers really uncomfortable.

    ]]>         By: Offbeat Bride | Why aren’t you excited for your special daaaaaaay? http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-5791 Offbeat Bride | Why aren’t you excited for your special daaaaaaay? Sat, 02 Feb 2008 04:51:56 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-5791 [...] When brides don’t squeal enough [...] [...] When brides don’t squeal enough [...]

    ]]>         By: Molly http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-594 Molly Fri, 23 Mar 2007 15:42:33 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-594 Thank you for your advice. It takes a little more patience, but I will try to approach each conversation as a grounds for educating people. But I am definitely constructing a vulva sculpture for the wedding! Thanks also for this site--it has helped me keep my sanity. Thank you for your advice. It takes a little more patience, but I will try to approach each conversation as a grounds for educating people. But I am definitely constructing a vulva sculpture for the wedding!

    Thanks also for this site–it has helped me keep my sanity.

    ]]>         By: Jezebel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough/comment-page-1#comment-587 Jezebel Thu, 22 Mar 2007 16:29:23 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/when-brides-dont-squeal-enough#comment-587 LOL. Well at least I dont' feel so alone now. I am excited about my handfasting, but to be honest, I get sick of talking about it. I mean it's just one day. The honest route has worked well for me but if that doesn't work ask them to volunteer to take on some of the work in producing this event. Words like, "Yeah I'm excited but this is a lot of work. I could really use some help. Do you think you might be available to help me make the 120 labels for the favors?" That is guaranteed to bring that subject to a halt, or gain you a valuable slave..err volunteer! LOL. Well at least I dont' feel so alone now.

    I am excited about my handfasting, but to be honest, I get sick of talking about it. I mean it's just one day.

    The honest route has worked well for me but if that doesn't work ask them to volunteer to take on some of the work in producing this event. Words like, "Yeah I'm excited but this is a lot of work. I could really use some help. Do you think you might be available to help me make the 120 labels for the favors?"
    That is guaranteed to bring that subject to a halt, or gain you a valuable slave..err volunteer!

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