Comments on: Vania Sukola's DIY commitment celebration http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides Sun, 12 Feb 2012 08:20:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jenna http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola/comment-page-1#comment-101713 Jenna Mon, 27 Jun 2011 02:46:36 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola#comment-101713 You make me laugh because it would appear I have unwittingly copied your wedding! We are doing a quaker circle with no officiant, lawn games, kegs, flowers from produce junction the morning of, friends with geetars, e-invitations, no wedding party, flip flops. We too have had difficulty getting people to understand what we are doing. we are calling it a family "pre-union" oh and a wedding :) You make me laugh because it would appear I have unwittingly copied your wedding! We are doing a quaker circle with no officiant, lawn games, kegs, flowers from produce junction the morning of, friends with geetars, e-invitations, no wedding party, flip flops. We too have had difficulty getting people to understand what we are doing. we are calling it a family "pre-union" oh and a wedding :)

]]> By: Tarah http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola/comment-page-1#comment-65883 Tarah Sun, 18 Apr 2010 20:39:04 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola#comment-65883 I experienced similar confusion and questions from my local friends and family about 6 years ago when my boyfriend (at the time) and I had a traditional handfasting (a pagan commitment ceremony). The specific purpose of a traditional handfasting is to allow a couple to "test" married life before making the step to have a life-long commitment. This included sharing a home and finances for 366 days. At the end of that time, we were to decide if we were going to get married, split, or take another year to try things out. Most of my friends and family didn't understand this process, why we had to have a ceremony (complete with vows and jewelry exchange), or what it all meant. We did our best to explain everything, especially to our parents, but ultimately ended with just about as much confusion as we started with. Nonetheless, we were both glad that we did that, especially because it gave us the opportunity to see that we were not meant to get married. By contrast, my FH and I opted out of a traditional handfasting, but will be incorporating the handbinding into our wedding. I experienced similar confusion and questions from my local friends and family about 6 years ago when my boyfriend (at the time) and I had a traditional handfasting (a pagan commitment ceremony). The specific purpose of a traditional handfasting is to allow a couple to "test" married life before making the step to have a life-long commitment. This included sharing a home and finances for 366 days. At the end of that time, we were to decide if we were going to get married, split, or take another year to try things out. Most of my friends and family didn't understand this process, why we had to have a ceremony (complete with vows and jewelry exchange), or what it all meant. We did our best to explain everything, especially to our parents, but ultimately ended with just about as much confusion as we started with. Nonetheless, we were both glad that we did that, especially because it gave us the opportunity to see that we were not meant to get married.

By contrast, my FH and I opted out of a traditional handfasting, but will be incorporating the handbinding into our wedding.

]]> By: Nelle http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola/comment-page-1#comment-51021 Nelle Sun, 30 Aug 2009 11:23:50 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola#comment-51021 Your veggie wedding and others' has really given me the courage to not give in to the carnivores! What to go! Your veggie wedding and others' has really given me the courage to not give in to the carnivores! What to go!

]]> By: discolemonade http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola/comment-page-1#comment-46976 discolemonade Tue, 07 Jul 2009 05:11:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola#comment-46976 I loved your story & celebration. My love & I really loved your ideas & we think what made your story beautiful to us was that it was personal to you & that was obviously important to you both. I loved your story & celebration. My love & I really loved your ideas & we think what made your story beautiful to us was that it was personal to you & that was obviously important to you both.

]]> By: Offbeat Bride | Wedding circle seating http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola/comment-page-1#comment-654 Offbeat Bride | Wedding circle seating Wed, 04 Apr 2007 01:31:28 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/03/vania-sukola#comment-654 [...] you can see from the picture here (from Vania’s Island celebration), you can make some pretty big circles with lots of guests. That said, if you’re in a smaller [...] [...] you can see from the picture here (from Vania's Island celebration), you can make some pretty big circles with lots of guests. That said, if you're in a smaller [...]

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