Tracy Ducasse's bee-friendly backyard nuptials

anniversaryThe offbeat bride: Tracy Ducasse, Registered Nurse (and Offbeat Bride lab rat!)

My offbeat groom: Thomas Ducasse, Oil Burner Technician

Location & date of wedding: In my grandparent's backyard in Oakham, MA … in 1987!

What made our wedding offbeat: We got married outside, no religious affiliations. Our ceremony was in front of the huge birch tree, at my grandparents house, and had our pictures taken by friends and family — no photographers, except amateur ones. We paid for the wedding ourselves. My girlfriend made my wedding bouquet, and gave it to me as a gift. This year marks our 20th anniversary, so it seem frugal is the way to go for a lasting marriage.

Our biggest challenge: During the ceremony, our justice of the peace give me the "hurry up" hand signal while I was waiting for my music to cue me. My father and I stood our ground. and politely ignored her until it was time to walk in.

anniversaryMy favorite moment: My favorite moment was realized in hindsight. I was watching my guests eye me warily as they leaned in for a congratulatory kiss, only to discover after-the-fact my babies breath crown was attracting bees. I was unaware, due to the fact they were behind me, loving my flower headdress.

My offbeat advice: Plan a budget, do it yourself, and remember the wedding is about you and your groom, not your parents or in laws wants and needs.

Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: Check out Tracy's offbeat '80s wedding gallery.

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  1. I love that. I think your wedding story is romantic. In all honesty sounds a bit silly to 20k for one day that ultimately, the bride doesn't even get to enjoy… Kudos to you. I always wanted to get married on the beach in flip flops! HA!

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  2. Sounds lovely! I am thinking about getting married in my grandparents back yard under an apple tree that I have played on since I was a little girl. Perhaps during the spring time when it is in bloom :) I love these simple, elegant, no fuss weddings!

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  3. What a lovely story! It makes me think of my parents' wedding story.

    My mom and dad got married for a few hundred bucks in 1979 on a friend's riverside property. The invitations were hand written in sharpie and photocopied. My mom wore a simple cotton dress and my dad wore jeans. My mom's bouquet consisted of whatever flowers were growing in my grandmother's yard (shrimp flowers!). Guests were asked to bring a covered dish and an instrument as there would be a jam session after the ceremony (my dad is a musician). My parents celebrated 30 years of marriage last year and say their friends still talk about how much fun they had at their wedding.

    While my own wedding will probably be a little more elaborate than that of my parents, I have definitely taken the "expense does not a lasting marriage make" lesson to heart.

    Congrats on your many years together.

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  4. This is sweet. I like seeing older weddings that have lasted. Also a reinforcement that I am so glad we kept our wedding as minimal as we did.

    I wish there was a series on this site of marriage advice from couples that have lasted a very long time, accompanied with cute old wedding pictures of course.

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