Lisa Marie Grillos' Bay Area backyard BBQ #Real Weddings: Western US#barbecue#diy wedding#san francisco February 15 | Ariel Meadow Stallings offbeatariel The offbeat bride: Lisa Marie Grillos, Photographer (and Offbeat Bride lab rat!) My offbeat groom: Stephen Grillos, poker player Location & date of wedding: August 6, 2005; Ceremony: Pulgas Water Temple in Woodside, CA; Reception: My in-law's backyard in Atherton, CA What made our wedding offbeat: Our wedding was a fun backyard bbq with all our closest family and friends there. We didn't think that spending a ridiculous amount of money on a wedding would make us any more married than if we spent less, so we saved a lot by doing DIY projects — invitations, programs, favors. We saved a lot of money on the venue by having the reception at a private residence. I also ordered single 8" cakes for each table rather than a traditional tiered wedding cake which saved us $1k, and everyone liked having their own cake to cut. We wrote our ceremony to be short and sweet, and it ended with everyone making the most amount of noise they could, to send us off into our newly married lives. Our biggest challenge: Our biggest challenge was figuring out how to avoid offending people when writing our ceremony, when I know our personal views are deemed offensive by certain family members. It's hard for me to shut my mouth sometimes. How did I deal with it? I just censored myself to the point where I was still happy with the outcome while not causing any huge upheaval. Our biggest challenge was figuring out how to avoid offending people when writing our ceremony, when I know our personal views are deemed offensive by certain family members. It's hard for me to shut my mouth sometimes. My favorite moment: My dad's speech in which he summed up our two families coming together by quoting the Borg from Star Trek: "Resistance is futile!" Also, dancing with my husband and friends to the bluegrass band we hired. My offbeat advice: Do what you want, but know where to compromise. Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: http://www.flickr.com/photos/lisamariegrillos/sets/72157594457579544/show Tell me all about your offbeat wedding! Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Ariel Meadow Stallings Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA. @offbeatariel @offbeatbride PREVIOUS Marry this, bitches — four ways to save your sanity NEXT Non-floral wedding centerpieces Toggle comments [ 2 ] wow, even though you went the diy route, you still had amazing details and beautiful color, and it looks like everyone had such a swell time! congratulations on pulling it off, and keeping the most important things in focus. best wishes! 1 agrees Reply Nice wedding:-) 1 agrees Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.