Comments on: Offbeat Bride + Traditional Groom = ?!? http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom Taffeta-Free Alternatives for Independent Brides Sat, 20 Mar 2010 20:20:14 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: ffem http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-55046 ffem Wed, 25 Nov 2009 17:44:46 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-55046 So I searched the first 17 pages of advice to find just this! my fiancee has been married 3 times before with 3 VERY traditional weddings. I don't want a traditional wedding because 1) the simple fact that it's different from the last 3, and 2) i don't agree with the "why" of the traditional stuff (i.e. why does the father walk his daughter down the aisle). Thanks Ariel. So I searched the first 17 pages of advice to find just this! my fiancee has been married 3 times before with 3 VERY traditional weddings. I don't want a traditional wedding because 1) the simple fact that it's different from the last 3, and 2) i don't agree with the "why" of the traditional stuff (i.e. why does the father walk his daughter down the aisle). Thanks Ariel.
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]]> By: Megan http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-51331 Megan Wed, 09 Sep 2009 07:14:45 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-51331 Holy crap! I'm not the only one! My fiance is meat-and-potatoes; crispy on the outside but tender and juicy on the inside whereas I'm the goofy fruitbat who wants a craft table and a tattoo-themed wedding cake. He's a little apprehensive when I bring up my ideas, but lets me run with them. I really want our day to be OUR day, and maybe showing him all the great ideas on the website might help. Good suggestion! Holy crap! I'm not the only one! My fiance is meat-and-potatoes; crispy on the outside but tender and juicy on the inside whereas I'm the goofy fruitbat who wants a craft table and a tattoo-themed wedding cake. He's a little apprehensive when I bring up my ideas, but lets me run with them. I really want our day to be OUR day, and maybe showing him all the great ideas on the website might help. Good suggestion!
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]]> By: sirens http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-40200 sirens Tue, 14 Apr 2009 08:01:25 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-40200 I have been having similar problems with my soon to be husband, but with us we are both off beat... just in opposite directions. His ideal wedding would have been in a grave yard wearing a cape where as i swing for a 1950's tea party. Luckily we have both been able to compromise on what was really important to us both. Although now he wants us to be married by a priest in traditional robes and the idea just makes me laugh.... HELP! I have been having similar problems with my soon to be husband, but with us we are both off beat… just in opposite directions. His ideal wedding would have been in a grave yard wearing a cape where as i swing for a 1950's tea party. Luckily we have both been able to compromise on what was really important to us both. Although now he wants us to be married by a priest in traditional robes and the idea just makes me laugh…. HELP!
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]]> By: Bobbi http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-10345 Bobbi Mon, 19 May 2008 19:23:11 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-10345 My husband-to-be is the exact same way. He wants the most traditional wedding, where I just want a party. So we've compromised our way through the enire planning which I actually find great, because we have really made it "ours". For example, he wants me in white...it's just gotta be white. So I got a dress that is white in the front and black in the back. So he's happy, I'm happy. He didn't like the idea I had for the wedding cake so instead of having a "Bride's Cake" and a "Groom's Cake" we are having 1 cake with elements that we both came up with. You may not get the wedding of your dreams, but you will get the wedding of you and your future husband's dreams and that is much more special. My husband-to-be is the exact same way. He wants the most traditional wedding, where I just want a party. So we've compromised our way through the enire planning which I actually find great, because we have really made it "ours". For example, he wants me in white…it's just gotta be white. So I got a dress that is white in the front and black in the back. So he's happy, I'm happy. He didn't like the idea I had for the wedding cake so instead of having a "Bride's Cake" and a "Groom's Cake" we are having 1 cake with elements that we both came up with. You may not get the wedding of your dreams, but you will get the wedding of you and your future husband's dreams and that is much more special.
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]]> By: Offbeat Bride | Kat’s Ottawa wedding was all about the offbeat details http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-8966 Offbeat Bride | Kat’s Ottawa wedding was all about the offbeat details Thu, 17 Apr 2008 16:36:07 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-8966 [...] had our own ideas of how our wedding should be — I’m more “out there” while he’s more traditional — and we had to find middle ground where we were both happy. Figuring out which ideas were [...] [...] had our own ideas of how our wedding should be — I'm more "out there" while he's more traditional — and we had to find middle ground where we were both happy. Figuring out which ideas were [...]
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]]> By: Offbeat Bride | Kat’s Ottowa wedding was all about the offbeat details http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-8953 Offbeat Bride | Kat’s Ottowa wedding was all about the offbeat details Thu, 17 Apr 2008 13:33:54 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-8953 [...] had our own ideas of how our wedding should be — I’m more “out there” while he’s more traditional — and we had to find middle ground where we were both happy. Figuring out which ideas were [...] [...] had our own ideas of how our wedding should be — I'm more "out there" while he's more traditional — and we had to find middle ground where we were both happy. Figuring out which ideas were [...]
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]]> By: Olivia http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-5548 Olivia Sun, 27 Jan 2008 19:21:00 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-5548 Thanks for this entry! I am in a somewhat similar boat, but would call my fiance more conventional than conservative. I too get the strange looks for many of my ideas! He is not comfortable with having unconventional food because his family might not like it, he want there to be an even number of attendants, he was a bit disappointed that I did not want a diamond ring - though he respects my reasoning - etc, etc. I find our wedding moving more towards the vanilla, but I think we are finding a comfortable middle ground. I am going to get the dress I want (not a wedding dress), we are having mostly live plants instead of flowers, AND he agreed to at least meet with an awesome flavorful Mediterranean/Greek/Lebanese caterer! I have found the best way to convince him is to SHOW him how classy "weird" ideas can look. For example, I had him look around on this site with me. :) While it didn't completely convince him, he had to admit that when an idea is well planned and executed it looks good! Thanks for this entry! I am in a somewhat similar boat, but would call my fiance more conventional than conservative. I too get the strange looks for many of my ideas!

He is not comfortable with having unconventional food because his family might not like it, he want there to be an even number of attendants, he was a bit disappointed that I did not want a diamond ring – though he respects my reasoning – etc, etc.

I find our wedding moving more towards the vanilla, but I think we are finding a comfortable middle ground. I am going to get the dress I want (not a wedding dress), we are having mostly live plants instead of flowers, AND he agreed to at least meet with an awesome flavorful Mediterranean/Greek/Lebanese caterer!

I have found the best way to convince him is to SHOW him how classy "weird" ideas can look. For example, I had him look around on this site with me. :) While it didn't completely convince him, he had to admit that when an idea is well planned and executed it looks good!

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]]> By: Caroline http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-5158 Caroline Wed, 16 Jan 2008 07:00:59 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-5158 I'm having precisely the same issue! My husband to be is quite conservative PLUS I let myself get pushed around by some of my more straitlaced/religious family members, so I'm left with a church ceremony/white wedding dress/150 guest traditional event, and I now have to come up with a way not to feel like I'm planning someone elses wedding, and He's alternating between telling me my ideas are "weird" and that all he wants is for me to have whatever I want, I'm having precisely the same issue! My husband to be is quite conservative PLUS I let myself get pushed around by some of my more straitlaced/religious family members, so I'm left with a church ceremony/white wedding dress/150 guest traditional event, and I now have to come up with a way not to feel like I'm planning someone elses wedding, and He's alternating between telling me my ideas are "weird" and that all he wants is for me to have whatever I want,
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]]> By: Ariel http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-5082 Ariel Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:42:26 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-5082 mj, how about you and your husband each write your own vows? That way, he can include as much god as he wants in his vows to you, and you can be as atheistic as you want in yours. mj, how about you and your husband each write your own vows? That way, he can include as much god as he wants in his vows to you, and you can be as atheistic as you want in yours.
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]]> By: mj http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom/comment-page-1#comment-5081 mj Tue, 15 Jan 2008 00:39:42 +0000 http://offbeatbride.com/2007/01/offbeat-bride-traditional-groom#comment-5081 Yeah, but...what if he wants a religious ceremony and I'm a raging anti-jesus atheist? My boyfriend and I are at the point where we don't even want a ceremony b/c we can't compromise on that... Yeah, but…what if he wants a religious ceremony and I'm a raging anti-jesus atheist? My boyfriend and I are at the point where we don't even want a ceremony b/c we can't compromise on that…
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