Melissa Mansfield's intimate ceremony #Real Weddings: Northeast US#librarian#marriage equality#new york#small wedding#upstate new york January 28 | Ariel Meadow Stallings offbeatariel The offbeat bride: Melissa Mansfield, researcher and knitter (and Offbeat Bride lab rat!) My offbeat groom: Joseph, librarian and banjo-player Location & date of wedding: Harvest Cafe patio overlooking Mohonk Mountain, New Paltz, N.Y. August 27, 2005. What made our wedding offbeat: We chose New Paltz Mayor Jason West as our officiant once he was elected, because we met in New Paltz, and knew him from town. Then he solemnized same-sex couples and made national news. We did ask a friend to get certified just in case there was an injunction, but luckily Mayor West was able to perform the ceremony. The bride wore a knee length dress, the groom a brown pinstripe suite. Our attendants had some shade of red involved in their clothing, sisters and mothers as well. We surrounded ourselves with our immediate family and closest friends for the ceremony, then celebrated the occasion with about 125 loved ones at a restaurant on the Roundout Creek in Kingston. And our first live song (by awesome blues band No Outlet) was "Never Can Tell" by Chuck Berry. If something matches your personalities but not the wedding industry's ideals — who cares! Our biggest challenge: It was hard to explain to our friends and family that the ceremony would be very intimate. They were flying in from all over, but we wanted to get married in the Village of New Paltz, and there aren't many venues for 125 people. We had planned on showing the video of the ceremony right before we arrived at the reception, but a technical glitch postponed the viewing until later that evening My favorite moment: Walking in to the room of our loved ones, all smiling at us, was very special. The bride's father, and two of our close friends, played music for us at the reception. It was a beautiful gift, and the bride danced with her knitting crew to "Rock and Roll Part 2" by the Velvet Underground. My offbeat advice: Pick your battles, and remember this day is to celebrate the love between you and your partner. If something matches your personalities but not the wedding industry's ideals — who cares! Enough talk — show me the wedding porn: melissaandjoe.shutterfly.com Reporter Name * Reporter Email * Original text Enter the original text here. Edited text* Enter your suggested copyedit here. Notes You can add a note for the editor here. * Required information. Fix Typo Ariel Meadow Stallings Author of Offbeat Bride: Creative Alternatives for Independent Brides, Ariel acts as the publisher of all the Offbeat Empire websites. She lives, loves, and dorks out hard in Seattle, WA. @offbeatariel @offbeatbride PREVIOUS Offbeat Bride + Traditional Groom = ?!? NEXT Offbeat Bride on Seattle's KOMO 4 Toggle comments [ 1 ] […] other news, I think I want to wear a veil. I've was inspired after seeing this post on Offbeat Bride. It's not the poofy horrible thing I always imagine veils are and she […] 0 agree Reply Join the conversation Cancel Reply Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked * Comment Notify me of follow-up comments by email. No-drama comment policy Part of what makes the Offbeat Empire different is our commitment to civil, constructive commenting. Make sure you're familiar with our no-drama comment policy. Biz owners & wedding bloggers Please just use your real name in your comment, not your business name or blog title. Our comments are not the place to pimp your website. If you want to promote your stuff on Offbeat Bride, join us as an advertiser instead.