Gem stones, anchors, and secret messages: New exciting designs from Brent & Jess

By on Sep. 30th

Okay, we know you love Brent & Jess fingerprint rings. Your enthusiasm made them go viral back in 2009, we keep seeing them popping up in your bride profiles, and even in our guests posts.

So what could be better than a visit with your favorite fingerprint rings? Fingerprint rings featuring Brent & Jess' new, exciting designs featuring gemstones, and secret messages…

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How to throw a Harry Potter bridal shower without making look like a kid's birthday party

Guestpost by Rachel on Sep. 30th

Bride and MOH, with Hedwig

As a bridesmaid, it's my job to plan my friend's upcoming bridal shower. The bride-to-be is a HUGE Harry Potter fan. The honeymoon is going to be at the Harry Potter World at Universal Studios, if that tells you anything.

So the question for me became: How do I properly throw a party inspired by the books and movies, without making it look like a children's birthday party?

Tea and Champagne, of course! ANd Lemon Drops for Dumbledore!

There are TONS of suggestions out there, so it was easy to see some possible options, but we also wanted to make it uniquely appropriate for Stefani, our bride. So we settled on a "Madam Puddifoot's Tea House" theme — a tea party, complete with crumpets, and scones, and tea and lemonade…

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Greta & Erty's community-made Victorian-styled wedding weekend

By on Sep. 30th

The Offbeat Bride: Greta, Anthropology major (seeking wages!)

Her offbeat partner: Erty, software engineer

Date and location of wedding: Fortune Lake Lutheran Camp, Crystal Falls, MI — August 16, 2014

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Having a steampunk flair to our wedding was never really up for debate, as that was one of the main adjectives with which our friends had come to describe us. But we also wanted to honor the rustic world that had brought us together. We both attended a environmentally-based boarding school for high school, which is where we met. We wanted to get married outside, and we also knew we wanted all of our friends and family who were spread across the nation to be able to gather together and celebrate rather than it just being a blur of travel.

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Queer femme hearts trans man: the legitimacy of love

Guestpost by Chelsea O'Neil on Sep. 29th

It's happened on a handful of occasions. I mention that my partner and I are planning a wedding and the person I am talking to, someone that I don't know very well at all, responds with "Will it be a real wedding?" Ouch.

What I imagine they were looking for was some clarification of the legality of the marriage, since we're not straight.

It also made me feel defensive because I am a woman and my partner is a man — yes, he is transgender… but questioning if our wedding is real also brings up Pinnochio-like questions of whether or not he is a "real boy."

Other couples don't get these questions, particularly heterosexual and cisgender couples. I don't want things like that to hurt… but they do. This really hurt my heart.

For LGBTQ people, and often other marginalized communities, intimate love and wedded bliss may seem unattainable. Society tells so many of us that we will not be worthy of love "until" or "unless" or in "real" ways. The messages are to lose more pounds, to change what makes us different, to fit in, to conform, to assimilate, to stop pushing our agenda… then and only then will we find acceptance.

Being fully, unapologetically ourselves comes with risks and can be both contentious and dangerous. We are violated, belittled, deprived of love, victimized, isolated and left wanting… both by larger systems and communities, and by people we thought we could trust. Amidst the pain or discomfort, we have to remember that there is hope.

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Join the magic show at a Night Circus-themed wedding in an LA bookstore

By on Sep. 29th

Offbeat Brides always do book-themed weddings right, and Jane and Alphonso are no exception. They focused on one book in particular: their own fave, The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern.

The novel centers around a couple of rival magicians who fall in love during a circus that happens at night, and Jane and Alphonso brought it to life, people. They held their ceremony in Los Angeles' The Last Bookstore, adding their own magic with handmade, book-themed centerpieces, Victorian-esque wedding outfits, masquerade masks, and oh yes, an actual magician.

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Harmony & Judah's '60s mod math and science wedding

By on Sep. 29th
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Photos by Amy McMullen

The Offbeat Bride: Harmony, Math and Science Middle School Teacher (and Tribesmaid)

Her offbeat partner: Judah, Physics Student

Date and location of wedding: Jupiter Hotel, Portland, Oregon — July 18, 2014

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: We wanted our wedding to be a fun nod to our shared passions: math, science, music, and film. I studied math in college and now teach math and science at a middle school. Judah has been a huge space nerd since he was a kid and is now back in school studying physics after getting an arts degree. My favorite films are French new wave films of the 1960s, we love '60s music, and I love a good mod shift dress. We found a way to incorporate all of our ideas in a fun, retro, nerdy love fest!

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Custom Comix offers comic book accessories and gifts for every geeky wedding need

By on Sep. 26th

Custom Comix

Where are my comic book geeks!? Brides, bridesmaids, grooms, etc, I have found y'all's favorite Etsy shop: Custom Comix.

Designer Holly Donahue started her Etsy shop just shy of four years ago, featuring one-of-a-kind comic book accessories. Pendants, cufflinks, bracelets, earrings, pocket mirrors, rings, pinback buttons, and of course comic-covered shoes are all available through the Custom Comix store.

Come, let's peruse the goods…

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Striped wedding heels

By on Sep. 26th
White shoes: $40 | Green shoes: $35

White shoes: $40 | Green shoes: $35

Y'all know I loved striped wedding dresses… but what about striped shoes? Today, I am here with a boat-load full of striped wedding shoes. I've got a range, from black and white Tim Burton-esque whimsical, to more nautical styles, to rainbow tiger stripes (!?). For those of you who love flats, I've got a random bonus shoe for you…

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Offbeat vendor meet-ups next week in Atlanta and Los Angeles

By on Sep. 26th
Me and the dudes from Lovesick. From left to right: Tom, me, Jon.

Me and the dudes from Lovesick. From left to right: Tom, me, Jon.

I feel like I'm still unpacking my bags from my trip to Las Vegas last week, where I did that presentation about offbeat weddings… and now I'm packing up again for another trip. Next week, I'm heading to Los Angeles for a meet-up with offbeat vendors who are interested in being a part of the Lovesick Expo this winter. And there's an event in Atlanta next week, too!

Here are the details:

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Karina & Taylor's vintage style, music, and zombies wedding

By on Sep. 26th
Casa Feliz

Photos by The Hons Photography (formerly B. Mello)

The Offbeat Bride: Karina, Subcontracts Administrator

Her offbeat partner: Taylor, Internal Asset Review

Date and location of wedding: Casa Feliz in WInter Park, FL — October 13, 2013

Our offbeat wedding at a glance: Taylor and I love music. LOVE. We reunited at a Rise Against concert years after meeting in college. He proposed at a Tiger Army concert. We try to incorporate music as much as possible into our lives because it makes our world go 'round, and we thought we should showcase it in the wedding as well.

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Jump into a pile of 15 festively fall weddings

By on Sep. 25th

It's finally AUTUMN, you guys, and there is just nothing at all like this season. Fall weddings can take on so many different feels! So let's just lose ourselves in a big ol' pile of ALL OF THEM. We've got spooky, we've got cozy, we've got goth, outdoorsy, haunted, cute, colorful, gray, sunny, rainy — whatever you're looking for, it's the most wonderful time of the year.

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